| When your soul decided to have this magnificent life | | | | It is important to change your karma of a particular |
| experience, it did it for one reason, and one reason | | | | pattern, which attracts the same back to you again |
| only. | | | | and again. It's all energy vibrating and pulsing around |
| Joy! | | | | you. All the qualities that you need to make anything |
| And then it set out through life to provide itself with all | | | | work, exists within you in seed form. Bring them out. |
| that it needed to start having joy filled relationships. | | | | For example do you notice that your spouse never |
| Oh oh.... Somewhere down the path of life it | | | | takes anything seriously? Well then, you stop being |
| discovered its personality handicaps like "Too shy, too | | | | very serious about that situation, and find the humor in |
| bold, dominating, too giving, too mild, too trusting, etc..." | | | | it. When you start reducing the energy in the opposite |
| And so in each relationship it discovered what | | | | ways that you both look at things, then both will arrive |
| handicaps were being mirrored back at it. Ask me, I | | | | at a mid-point and agree happily. |
| know what strengths and weaknesses were being | | | | Or, find out what in life you are not serious about? |
| mirrored back to me in each one of my relationships. | | | | Your job maybe? Your relationship itself? Then |
| Now the next question is, how does one improve a | | | | inculcate commitment as one of your qualities. And |
| particular relationship. | | | | see the change that happens overnight! Wow, just like |
| 1. At any point, when you notice what buttons are | | | | magic! |
| being pushed in you, work to remove those buttons. | | | | Also its not worth asking this question "But I am such a |
| 2. Next work on releasing the fear or sadness that the | | | | nice person, why does he/she treat me this way?" |
| particular person (could be your boss or lover) brings | | | | Yes you are loving and kind and giving, but is there any |
| out in you. There is a process for that. | | | | part of you which feels as if you are not complete in |
| 3. Prayer works. As you pray and ask the Divine for a | | | | yourself? |
| new perspective, the Divine will give it to you. | | | | How can that be? You are so magnificent! Start loving |
| 4. As your perspective changes, your relationship with | | | | yourself, and also find out the shortest route between |
| that person will change. | | | | you and your loved one. That is the energy pathway |
| 5. Work on your confidence level. Go beyond needing | | | | that you have to make. All these people are planets in |
| that person to fulfill you. This releases energy push and | | | | your universe, but you are the Sun. Have them revolve |
| pull. Also called letting go of need. | | | | around you in love and peace. |
| 6. Any sadness in your heart calls forth more reasons | | | | Remove any reason for them to react to you in a |
| for sadness, and so engage in healthy activities that | | | | negative way, whether by bringing in another person, |
| bring happiness to you. | | | | firing you, replacing you...it does not matter. Get them |
| Bring long pauses between provocation and reaction. | | | | into a state of peace in your mind. and then start |
| Normally sadness and button pushing trigger some | | | | feeling the JOY of being with them in your mind. |
| emotion-- maybe insecurity, feeling as if you are not | | | | One way is to send love to them. Spiritual |
| cared for, feeling left out, ignored. And this emotion is | | | | psychotherapy works wonders. I have included a |
| right at the bottom of the emotional guidance scale. | | | | message on my 'Change your Relationship Vibe' page. |
| Anyone who has any spirit in them, will not remain in | | | | And will give updates via my Well Being newsletter. |
| this space of insecurity for very long, and will turn it into | | | | The whole purpose is to have Joyful relationships dear |
| anger. As you know, angry actions do not serve us, | | | | one. Release the sadness and discover the Joy in |
| but actually creates discordance. So now have a | | | | yourself and your relationships. |
| better thought, and feel better, and climb up the | | | | Love is in the air.. and waiting...all you have to do is call |
| emotional scale. | | | | forth that love to experience in your physical life. |