| Lately, a number of people in my life have discovered | | | | God and the universe. How many of you have been |
| that the person they thought was totally devoted to | | | | taught that God is everywhere and that He is |
| them has been unfaithful. It has caused great pain for | | | | everything, encompassing all? If that is so, His light also |
| them. Each of us looks for love and when we think | | | | includes us—we are part of Him and He is part of us. |
| we have found it, we can often be later disappointed | | | | Therefore, might it be more beneficial to recognize that |
| when we learn that our significant other has sought | | | | each of us is already whole? Analyzing the statement |
| companionship elsewhere. | | | | from shaman Charles Crooks, "We are all part of the |
| Recent statistics estimate that approximately one-half | | | | whole, and not separate" can offer an effective way |
| of all married men and women search for intimacy | | | | to change your current reality. When you realize you |
| outside their marriage. Note that these numbers do not | | | | are part of the whole of everything, you have the |
| include the many other relationships where marriage is | | | | option of feeling full. Under these conditions, you may |
| not involved but where there is still an expectation of | | | | not stray for fulfillment outside, as everything is already |
| commitment. In addition, most people who cheat will lie | | | | there. |
| about their infidelity. Therefore, no one really knows the | | | | Practice PerfectionNumerous people have this same |
| true numbers of people in troubled relationships, being | | | | spiritual philosophy. Yet many, as discussed above, |
| unfaithful to their partners. | | | | have had issues with betrayal of love. Therefore, why, |
| Regardless, it is evident there are numerous instances | | | | on earth, would they stray? |
| of such behavior. Therefore, it may be beneficial to | | | | It is important to recognize that all of us are human and |
| examine this situation in more detail to determine why it | | | | as such, are subject to the physical temptations of this |
| is so prevalent and how to handle it effectively. | | | | world. None of us, in the physical form, is perfect. Yes, |
| Why look elsewhere for companionship?So why | | | | we have the perfect spirit of God within us. However, |
| would a married person or someone already in a | | | | the spiritual concept of wholeness needs constant |
| committed relationship seek physical or emotional | | | | support since the physical body is in a perpetual |
| companionship with another person? Indeed, if | | | | struggle to subdue the spirit within you. The intellect, or |
| someone were truly happy in their marriage, or | | | | physical side of you, wishes to stop your spirit from |
| significant relationship, it would seem that they would | | | | coming forward as it sees it as a threat to the body. |
| not be hunting for something outside of it. Oftentimes, | | | | To be immune to the appeal of the physical senses, |
| when questioned afterwards about their roaming | | | | one must continually remain alert, without distractions. |
| activities, people will admit that the person they are | | | | Therefore, it is beneficial to practice a daily regimen of |
| currently involved with is not meeting their needs. | | | | communing with your spirit to keep you on target. You |
| Therefore, they look elsewhere. | | | | can easily accomplish this by meditation. |
| Why is someone not meeting your needs?Meeting the | | | | Refuting ActionsAnother item to consider is that the |
| needs for you—what does this mean? Does this not | | | | path to spirituality is not easy. There are those dark |
| signify a feeling of being unfulfilled, or empty? Cheating | | | | forces in the universe who wish to suppress the |
| spouses and partners will often assert, after the fact, | | | | perfect spirit of light within you. Those individuals who |
| that they still love their significant other tremendously. | | | | are working the spiritual path and who practice the |
| So how you may ask, can someone feel their needs | | | | constructive attributes of love, understanding, |
| are unmet when they still ascertain they think the world | | | | compassion, honor, honesty and humility are under |
| of their significant other? | | | | more fierce attack from those destructive forces. This |
| However, let us consider, for a moment, an idea. A | | | | is a good explanation why you may witness many |
| relationship is simply a microcosm of a person's life, or | | | | preachers, evangelists, and spiritual teachers having |
| reality. Therefore, if a man or woman feels that | | | | scandalous relationships. |
| something is missing in a relationship, does that permit | | | | However, the spiritual process is not one of judgment, |
| the feeling of being incomplete? Furthermore, if you | | | | but of love. Recognizing this can help all of humanity to |
| are not whole, you must be outside of something, and | | | | remain focused on the goal of spiritual ascension. If |
| lacking in some capacity. Yes, you love your spouse or | | | | you have cheated, look within to find the answers. The |
| partner. However, might something more profound be | | | | answer is there and, once found, can be a source of |
| going on that may have added to your temptation to | | | | never-ending love. However, due to your physical |
| be untrue to your love? | | | | limitations, it is important to look to that source daily to |
| A SolutionI discovered several years ago that I was | | | | remember your connection to the whole. If you do, you |
| reacting to certain situations because I had the reality | | | | may never feel the need to be unfaithful to your loved |
| that I was outside of everything. However, I have since | | | | one again. |
| determined that all of us are part of every aspect of | | | | |