| Yelling, begging, pleading to make contact with a spirit | | | | essential that any ghost hunter needs, this can be a |
| in a paranormal investigation may seem par for the | | | | winning formula for paranormal research. Presenting |
| course, yet doesn't this strike you as slightly pathetic? | | | | yourself as a rational and respectful investigator can |
| When dealing with an intelligent entity, one must | | | | be very successful in generating the contact you are |
| remember that the reason you are investigating is | | | | seeking. If you feel you have to force yourself on the |
| because that entity has in some way chosen to make | | | | spirit then perhaps the Spirit doesn't want your |
| itself known. | | | | company. I can cite many instances when this "small |
| A paranormal investigation can be compared to a blind | | | | talk" worked for me and my team members. The one |
| date, would you force yourself on a woman or man | | | | that sticks out the most is the investigation in a small |
| on your first date? Hopefully you answered an | | | | jail in Sutters Mill California, where using small talk with |
| immediate no, otherwise you may be heading for a | | | | a mix of empathy generated over twenty minutes of |
| room with a view, but that view is behind bars of a | | | | contact that was off the charts. |
| prison. | | | | Like any relationship if it fails then you'll be wise to |
| The question that confronts all those serious in | | | | leave well enough alone and either go back at another |
| paranormal investigating is how to make contact in the | | | | time, or leave it to another investigator. Sometimes its |
| shortest amount of time. The clock is always ticking | | | | just not meant to be. |
| fast in any investigation. Most investigations take place | | | | Remember a spirit existing on a different plane, is |
| over a few hours, or usually a night, as owners seem | | | | usually immune to machismo like taunts, they may |
| to do not want to have us "ghost hunters" around for | | | | have not moved on, but they have more often then |
| an extended period of time. | | | | not have moved beyond that. So in conclusion in my |
| The answer is not unlike a first date when you make | | | | opinion be cordial and don't force it, it will all come |
| small talk. When this "small talk" used in combination | | | | naturally. |
| with respect, and empathy, and of course with the | | | | |