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Improving your Relationships -- Relationship Dynamics From a Spiritual Perspective - Part 3

In Part 2 of this article, I discussedshe has always felt like a sister, for
healing relationships and soul agreements.example, or even a rival. (It can be very
Please see Part 2 for this information.perplexing at times to have a conflicting
Let's continue with Part 3, in which we'llmixture of qualities in these connections.
discuss  Soul  Connections:For example, I've known clients who were
stymied in trying to understand why a person
Soul  Connectionswho was ostensibly a friend somehow also
subtly felt like a rival or competitor. Once
"We cannot live only for ourselves. Athe soul connections were explored and
thousand fibers connect us with our fellowunraveled, the mixed quality of the
men; and among those fibers, as sympatheticrelationship  made  more  sense.)
threads, our actions run as causes, and they
come  back  to  us  as  effects."In contrast to connections that may remain
somewhat consistent, I will also see, as I
-Herman  Melvillementioned, combinations of these types of
connections. For instance, two people may be
Starting to get information on soulfrom the same soul group or same soul family
agreements led me to continue to explore theand also be brother and sister or cousins or
concept of relationships on another level andteacher  and  student.
from another perspective. I next began to
explore various types of soul connections.The types of soul connections I've mentioned
Now, the soul connection that we aretend to be between those we know and interact
generally the most familiar with - andwith over and over again in different
desirous of - is the soul mate connection.lifetimes. This continual interaction over
It is certainly considered to be the mostdifferent lifetimes tends to forge a sense of
sought-after one, and a relationship with ourconnection that is generally stronger than
soul mate is one of the major things in lifethat which would be felt from interaction in
that many of us yearn for and actively seek.perhaps just one lifetime. This soul
For some, it can be a lifelong pursuit."familiarity" may also enable us to feel
Indeed, we tend to place so much value on thesomewhat safer working out some of our stuff
soul mate connection that we are oftenin the framework of a learning relationship
unaware of the existence of other types ofthat  is  based  on  these close connections.
soul connections that we may have with those
whom we may know fairly closely. However,Soul agreements may be made both with people
other types of soul connections do exist, atwith whom we have soul connections, as well
least from the information I have received.as with others to whom we feel no deep
So before we discuss soul mate relationshipsconnection. And we may have both pleasant
in more detail, let's look at some otherand unpleasant soul agreements from one
types  of  soul  connections.lifetime to the next with those with whom we
have soul connections. The variety and
At present when I look at relationships incombinations appear to be limitless.
sessions, whether romantic or those withCertainly if a person we're interacting with
friends, family, work colleagues, children,closely comes from our same soul group and is
or others, I will look not just at the energyalso someone with whom we've had both
dynamics or the resonating issues or lessonspleasant and unpleasant soul agreements, we
or soul agreements involved, but also at whatmay therefore experience mixed feelings about
the overall soul connections may be. I dothat person, while at the same time feeling a
this because I have learned thatstrong connection with him/her. And,
understanding what soul connections there maysimilarly, having a same soul family
be on the soul level can give us additionalconnection with someone with whom we've had
insight into our relationships and theirproblematic or antagonistic soul agreements
dynamics, as well as into why a relationshipmay help to take the sting out of the overall
may have a certain feel to it or represent aconnection or absolve the more problematic
certain type of challenge. I have thus farflavor.
seen many different types of soul connections
and combinations thereof and have been ableUnderstanding what some of the soul
to sense how they can color the nature ofconnections and/or soul agreements may be
what one experiences in his/her interactionsoperating in the background, so to speak,
with  others.between people in relationships can enable us
to begin to understand why certain mixed
One type of soul connection I get quitefeelings may exist in different relationships
commonly is that the people involved, usuallyand how we can best handle the relationship
in some type of close relationship, are fromor interact in it. Interestingly, I have
the same soul group or same soul family.seen several cases in which two people had a
Although I can not yet completely delineategeneral soul agreement to always come
conceptually what that means in the greatertogether in different types of relationships
scheme of things, I intimate that the soulsin order to stimulate each other's growth,
in a soul group or soul family may have beenwithout any residual blame or "hard
created as souls at the same time or in afeelings." (It's almost as if there were an
group (although, given the nonexistence ofagreement to have a built-in "eraser" to
time on the highest levels, I'm not sure thateradicate any of the residual mutual
this makes complete sense) and that thesebitterness that any of their difficult
souls thus share a "kinship" not unlikerelationships might engender.) The potential
families here on earth. Being from the sameis endless for the variety and types of
soul group or same soul family may contributecombinations of connections and agreements we
to an underlying feeling of closeness betweenmay have with other souls, including what the
people or to a sense of coming from the sameresidual  effects  may  be.
place, a feeling of kinship that can't be
explained by other, more superficialWe will usually experience a deeper feeling
characteristics (family connection here, orof connection to someone with whom we have a
race, or background). For some reason that Istrong soul connection and, concomitantly,
do not yet comprehend, every time I get aless so to someone with whom we may have a
soul group or soul family connection, Ione-time soul agreement. This may explain
always get a visual impression of thewhy we feel an instant connection to or bond
numerous souls in the group or familywith someone we meet or an instantaneous
arranged in a circle next to each other.sense of familiarity - that feeling that
Although I feel that there is somesomehow we know this person we're meeting
significant meaning attached to thisostensibly for the first time.
geometric "being in a circle" configuration,Interestingly, it will often happen that we
I  do  not yet know what that meaning may be.will meet someone for the first time and feel
a very strong soul connection - and then,
I have also, thus far on only rare occasions,over time, as we continue to get to know and
seen a variation on this connection of sameinteract with this person in real time,
soul group or soul family. In thisexperience the feeling of the soul connection
variation, I have sensed that two people camesubside, while the present connection takes
from different soul groups or families, butprecedence.
that their souls are so similar that they are
like distant unrelated cousins or twoThe soul connections that can encompass
expressions of the same complex vibration.diverse types of connections can really
Up to this point in time, I have only seencomplicate some of our relationships. For
this type of connection in souls that haveexample, I've read clients whose soul
some sort of inherent and greater than normalconnection to one of their children was that
complexity, greatness, or potential for itof student. In other words, the child was
here on earth. It's as if their uniquenesstheir teacher (over and above the usual way
or rareness meant that there were very fewin which one's children can teach one
other souls who had a similarity. I'm stilllessons). This adds another element to the
in the process of understanding this conceptusual relationship of parent-child, with the
completely and will probably only begin to doparent trying to be the wiser and nurturing
so  when  I  encounter  more instances of it.one!
There are other, more common soulOn the other hand, a combination of soul
connections. Most of these are experiencedconnections can also add a richness and
and expressed in familial terms. I havetexture to some relationships that might not
sensed many soul connections that were thoseotherwise  have  been  there.
of siblings, whether brother and sister or
sisters or brothers. I've seen parent toSuch soul connections generally underlie our
child and even uncle to niece or nephew andrelationships with those with whom we
cousins. Other soul connections may be moreinteract closely, for example family,
non-familial. A very common non-familial onefriends, co-workers - not to mention romantic
will be that of teacher or mentor andrelationships. I've seen clients who've had
student. I have also seen soul connectionswonderful relationships with their bosses or
that were those of colleagues, sometimessupervisors - only for me to find a positive
expressed in a positive and cordial mannersoul connection with the boss as benevolent
and at other times, in a negative ormentor in previous lifetimes. Conversely,
antagonistic  manner.I've also seen some difficult work
relationships, only to discover an overriding
I am still not completely sure what causes orsoul connection of antagonism or unpleasant
contributes to the particular type of soulrivalry. I've even seen instances of two
connections. The connection of being frompeople whose connection was that of always
the same soul group or same soul familyand consistently being rivals or competing
appears to be an inherent connection, comingwith each other. This is apparently the
from the "moment" of creation of souls, asmeans that they have chosen on another level
mentioned above. Other types of soulto consistently stimulate each other's
connections, such as those of siblings orgrowth, which, again, may tend to remove any
teacher/student, feel like they may have beenbitterness.
forged through various lifetimes. Indeed,
I've seen instances in which the soulSoul connections like these can also be
connection between two people was varied, dueconfusing in romantic relationships. We will
to the different roles they had played withsometimes meet someone with whom we feel a
each other in different lifetimes; they werestrong soul connection and interpret that to
(or had been) brother and sister (in onemean that, because there's a strong soul
lifetime), but also colleagues (in anotherconnection, we're supposed to be together as
lifetime), for example, and others who wereromantic partners, whereas the actual soul
(or had been) spouses to each other, as wellconnection may just be that of being from the
as parent and child. (These varied soulsame soul group or same soul family. I've
connections, interestingly enough, will oftenseen clients who were strongly motivated to
be felt in the relationship of thosebe in a particular relationship because they
involved, so that there is a mixed qualityhad felt a strong soul connection from the
that they feel in their connection or anoutset with the other person and for this
overlay of different attributes.) Sometimesreason thought they were supposed to be
these soul connections will have an addedtogether. All the more reason why it's
dimension of hierarchy, in that one of thehelpful to know what type of soul connection
two people (or souls) has traditionally beenit  may  be.
the "senior" one or the one with more clout
or  power.On the other hand, it can also happen that we
may sense an initial aversion to someone we
Interestingly, these flavors in soulmeet, just because of an unpleasant soul
connections may change over time. Forconnection - and this sense of aversion may
instance, two souls whose overall connectionshift over time as we interact with and get
may have been parent-child, with one alwaysto know the person in the here and now for
having had power over the other, may findtheir present persona and essence. I've seen
that their connection equalizes over time orone case in which a client had a strong
even in the space of one lifetime, so thatinitial dislike for someone with whom he
the  sense  of  hierarchy  evaporates.later became romantically involved. As his
initial dislike mutated into a romantic
These various types of soul connections willinterest, he found himself having dreams of
flavor what we experience in ourthe other person, in which he felt that he
relationships with others and often in awas exploring his past life connections with
subtle manner. We may feel a particularher. In every case, he dreamed of her
closeness to a friend, for example, and thenabusing him in various ways. Interestingly,
learn that our soul connection is that ofthe present relationship between the two of
sisters or brothers. This factor of soulthem was somewhat dysfunctional, but was also
connections helps to explain why we may bea strong learning relationship as well. He
feeling some sort of connection with certainended up learning strong lessons from this
people that can't be explained simply by therelationship that stimulated his personal
present connection or nature of thegrowth. In this particular case, his initial
interaction, or why we may be feeling afeeling of aversion was indicative of a
certain quality in the relationship that hasdifficult soul connection and a foreshadowing
inherently been there from the veryof painful interactions. However, he was
beginning; in other words, why we've had aable to mine great jewels from the
specific feeling from the moment we metexperience, even though the other person was
someone who has later become a friend thatnot his soul mate.



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